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1. "I dream of a love

   10/06/08 20:34:14 | 0 spooged

   that even time will lie down and be still for."
   -- Sally Owens quote from the movie, Practical Magic

   
   

2. Memories & Dreams

   10/02/08 14:36:03 | 0 spooged

   One is our past; the other our future; both gifts never taken away.
   Memories are experience that can't be undone, though used to dream a new day.
   I love my memories as well as my dreams; they both are a part of me.
   But, I can't live just in the past and give up what is yet to be.
   So tell me your tales of the good old days; reminisce over a cup of tea.
   As long as once your stories are told, you come dream a future with me.
   
   ~LLF
   
   

   
   

3. "So every day you help her to realize what happened

   09/28/08 16:28:50 | 0 spooged

   and you wait patiently for her to be okay with it, then you get her to fall in love with you again?"
   
   That's the premise of the movie, "50 First Dates." Yes, it is one of those sappy, feel good movies that plays over and over on cable tv, but can you imagine the kind of relationships we could create if we started each day with a clean slate except for the good things that we then build on? What if we could just forget the bad stuff and remember the good things about people? How would our interactions change with someone who caused us some perceived hurt or insult? Can you imagine putting in the effort to fall in love every day? Wouldn't it be nice?

4. Intermission

   09/26/08 06:12:58 | 0 spooged

   We interrupt our regularly scheduled programming to bring you this brief moment of lunacy.
   
   

   
   
   What? Want more? OK.
   
   
   
   Thank you for your patience. We now return you to our regularly scheduled insanity.

5. Yeha-Noha

   09/25/08 02:41:29 | 0 spooged

   I had prepared a long missive about destructive love, based on my own life experiences, that I've decided to keep to myself for now. Instead, I'll keep it short and sweet.

   You can love someone and not keep them in your life in a destructive way. If the love is causing you pain and despair, consider letting go of that harmful relationship or memory- whether it is a friend, brother, lover or parent. My cousin lies dead because he loved his brother too well, but not too wisely. His death served as both example and metaphor for what I call suicidal love - the unhealthy, codependent kind that - at best - leaves only one standing and - at its worst - injuries all parties involved along with innocent bystanders. He learned that behavior from his mother, by the way,�who continually rescued his brother.

   I have loved many people in my life. In fact, I love them still, but that doesn't mean that I can be with them or even allow them in my life in any significant way,�if at all. �Instead, I remember the good things about them and hope the best for those who are still alive, but not at my expense or at the expense of others I care about.

   I love and miss you, cuz, but now I have to let you go, too. No amount of wishing will bring you back and I can't let your self destruction take me down and damage my happiness. Life is for the living and I have a whole lot of living and loving left to do.
   
   And to everyone else. Yeha-Noha.
   

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